Do you ever feel as if no one cares about you? Often, I will feel this way. There are times when everyone I know is so busy attending to their own survival that they simply do not have the time to care about anyone else. There are also some that simply don’t care about anyone else but themselves. Others truly see themselves as caring because they have called to ask how I am doing, but then when I begin to open myself up and speak of what I may be feeling, they quickly change the subject and begin to talk about themselves. I quickly shut down at such times because I know that’s it not that they care, they simply wanted to appear as they did. They’re not listening to me…really listening, they were simply being ‘polite’ in asking.
So, what is ‘Caring’?
Caring can be shown in a number of ways. Mostly, it is demonstrated by simply being attentive and showing an interest; being focused enough on what another needs and truly offering a listening ear. This often demands some degree of self-sacrifice and placing another before one’s self. It’s not about ‘fixing’, though it can be demonstrated in such a way as in fixing a neighbor’s broken pipe free of charge. It’s simply about coming alongside another and willingly helping them carry their burden until they are back on their feet. It can be as simple as dropping off a card in someone’s mailbox and letting them know that you are thinking about them. It’s taking the time to simply acknowledge their existence; letting another know that they are not alone in this world. Such simple acts of kindness can turn a bad day into a not so bad day for one in need. It can ease the fears of another who may be feeling they are on overload.
Folks that are grieving, who are overwhelmed in their life, the ill, the elderly, etc., all need to know that somebody somewhere truly does care. Often, when a person does not feel cared about, they begin to isolate and shut themselves off from the outside world. Often, they have attempted to reach out to others, but to no avail. So, they give up. They tell themselves: ‘No one cares anyway, so what’s the use?’. Sadly, we do live in a world in which the ‘love of many has waxed cold’ (Mt. 24:12). This ‘tech’ world has made it even colder for ‘machines’ lack empathy; they cannot relay a gentle and tender intonation in a few text words. The world has been reduced to throwing crumbs to those who are hurting and in need.
If you desire to show another that you care, try to take simply a few moments to buy that card when you’re at the grocery store. It only costs a few minutes, a few dollars, to do so. Then, you can simply drop it off on your way home or on your way to your next engagement. In most cases, the recipient will be very grateful for such a simple act of kindness. It will perhaps bring a small smile to their face; they may even shed a tear. They will most likely place it on a table where they can see it and be reminded for a few days that someone cared. If you have the time, pick up the phone and give them a call. All you need to do is ‘listen’. I guarantee you that if you do such acts out of a sincere heart, and not out of a sense of ‘duty’, it will also bless your heart for having done so. Truly ‘Caring’ has a marvelous return. It will warm the heart of the ‘carer’ as much as it warms the heart of the recipient. Even if you receive a response: ‘You didn’t have to do that’, you’ll know that yes you did. Why? Because you will feel better for having done so. Caring for another is also a way of caring for one’s self. In this world of cold machines, it reminds us that we’re all still human beings who can have warm hearts.
1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
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