A woman I met not all that long ago has a site I frequent. It is not a bereavement site, but rather more of a ministry. She shares regularly on different topics and how they are Scripturally approached. Tonight, she posted essentially on whether or not God wants His children to just ‘lie down and let people walk all over us’.
My instant response/comment was: ‘Balance. So important. I remained in a very physically abusive relationship/marriage for over two decades because of imbalance teaching in regards to submission, etc. Having a Pastor’s wife ask me: ‘Is there anything more you can be doing?’ wasn’t much help either. It took some diligent good women to come alongside me and lovingly help me realize that it wasn’t God’s will for me or my children to be punching bags. We lovingly, yet boldly, speak the Truth. We humbly, yet assertively, take a stand. God does not want His children to be everyone’s doormat. Sometimes, it is like walking a tightrope. But if we want to finish the race as more than conquerors in Christ, we need to hold on to that balancing pole.’
So often, Scriptures are taken out of context, misused, and abused. Most probably do it out of error…I Hope. But, sadly, I have known some that have done so for personal gain. It is so important to read the entire Bible, Old and New Testaments, for a more complete understanding of Who God is and what He is like. Without doing so, extremes develop. When speaking of the Berean Jews in Acts 17:11, they were honored because: “Now these were more noble-minded than those in Thessalonica, for they received the word with great eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily to see whether these things were so.” They didn’t simply accept what they were told by the teachers, preachers, apostles of their day. They double checked the Scriptures…daily…to see if what they were being told was Truth. If we truly want to know God, His will, and what He has to say about anything, we need to go to the One Who said it. Teachers, Pastors, Evangelists, Apostles, etc., all have a job to do and hopefully they do it well. But let’s be real, all of us are human, all of us are capable of erring, all of us are vulnerable to being deceived, all of us are imperfect and get things wrong, at times. We all have blind-spots. Quite frankly, if I share something and someone approaches me with a different perspective on an interpretation of Scripture, I appreciate the challenge. It encourages me to dig deeper into God’s Word. If I was in error, I truly appreciate it when that is brought to Light. I am a Truth-seeker and have no desire to be passing onto others that which is not Truth. If it turns out that I was not in error, it strengthens my resolve and has usually resulted in finding more verses that support my stance. Either way, it’s a win-win.
When we are grieving, we have many things told to us that often send our heads into a tail-spin. One very common cliche is: ‘God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.’. This is so not true. But if we’re not personally familiar with God’s Word, we may think it is especially if a church elder or Pastor states it. Then, when we can’t handle the excruciating pain, we conclude that the fault lies within us. But God says that when we are weak, we are strong (2 Cor. 12:10). Why? Because we then turn to God and become dependent on His Strength. If someone criticizes the manner in which I grieve and essentially in so many words lets me know they think I am acting foolishly, good. Why? Because the foolish things confound the wise (who are wise in their own eyes) (1 Cor. 1:27).
We are very vulnerable in our grief. ‘Mediums’ know this and make their fortunes off of the grieving community. We are their number one roadkill for this type of bird of prey. But if we know God’s perspective on such matters, they will get nowhere in their attempts to persuade and seduce us. If we know that God’s Word encourages us to be vigil and sober, we are less likely to fall into the snares of drugs and alcohol to numb the pain. No matter how prominent a speaker may be, how well-known and liked, it is still our responsibility to daily search the Scriptures to see if what they are preaching lines up with the Word of God. The more we read, the more we seek the Lord to guide us into all Truth, the more readily we will notice that something being said is not quite correct. It’s as if the Holy Spirit within us rings a little bell to notify us that something’s off balance in what we are hearing or reading. There are times when something may ‘sound’ right on the surface, yet deep within we feel this discomfort. That’s definitely a sign to dig deeper. Sometimes, we may find that what another has stated is correct and that it was actually something within ourselves that was resisting hearing it. That still works for our benefit.
Truth is not relative or subjective. Truth…real Truth…is absolute and objective. Perspective can be relative and subjective, any police officer who has had to obtain a multiple number of witness statements at a scene of a crime will vouch to that. But Jesus, Who is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Heb. 13:8) is the Truth (J. 14:6) and He is the Word made flesh (J. 1:14). The Word of God is our balancing pole. According to ‘Quora’, this is the purpose of a balancing pole:
The horizontal pole has heavy weights on the end, serving two purposes: increasing the of the pole and the amount of control over the net the tightrope walker has.
An increased moment of inertia helps withstand external sources of torque, such as sudden gusts of wind.
The heavy weights allow the tightrope walker to exert torque by simply rotating the pole slightly, which moves his/her center of mass the other way, helping recenter him- or herself directly over the tightrope. –, IPhO medalist, former physics major
2 Timothy 3: (NKJV)
16 All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness,
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