This is a ‘venting’ topic from my book so if venting is upsetting to you, please skip by this. I do not want to upset or offend anyone. It’s just that a person basically used this title, the same person who has ‘used’ other titles, and the irony of this topic is that it specifically addresses this type of violation and ‘theft’.
No Harm Done?…….TOPIC
I’ve been stumbling, quite accidentally (???), across statements a mom might make in expressing some of her deepest thoughts/emotions in a private setting, and finding them used on another’s blog. I find this discomforting. Perhaps, such a thing does not trouble others, I have no way of knowing. It troubles me, though.
I can only express my thoughts/feelings on such things.
Out of simple respect, if we come across something another has shared from their grieving heart, before using it to promote one’s own personal ‘blog’, please think about how that mom may feel if she suddenly ‘happens’ to stumble upon her own words being shared/discussed/used elsewhere.
I’ve run across a few such occurrences in just this past week and am wondering if it’s becoming some sort of ‘trend’. Some folks are taking another’s personal expression and using it as the underlying thought for the self-promotion of their own publicly posted blogs. Some actually gather statements/feelings of those in grief, then put them into a book from which they personally profit. Personally, if I have shared such a thought/emotion and then find it quoted elsewhere, whether or not my name is used, I feel a ‘violation’ of sorts. It feels like just one more thing has been ‘taken’ from me.
Perhaps, it’s just me.
I do feel, however, before we quote another bereaved parent, that whenever possible we should attempt to contact them and ask them: “Is it OK to quote you?” Even if they choose to remain anonymous.
I have also seen ‘ideas’ taken and used for the same purpose of using it on their own blog. In such cases, they are not necessarily plagiarizing, but rather ‘stealing’ an idea, then using it for their ‘blog’. There’s no ‘copyright’ for thoughts and ideas, it’s simply a moral issue and an attitude of respect.
I would hope that God is our source. That what we write about is what the Lord has laid upon ‘our’ heart. I’m not saying that when we see a ‘good idea’ or something that ‘pops out’ at us, that we shouldn’t write about it from a personal perspective…especially when you have quoted that person with the same quote in the past and they did not object to you doing so. What I am suggesting is that when writing on these ‘especially eye-catching blogs’, that one asks themselves if they are doing so because God is leading them to do so? Or… is it because they believe it’s a great idea to further promote their own blog?
We can only self-examine in many of these situations. We all answer to our Lord and if we violate our own conscience, we harm ourselves…and possibly others.
Please be considerate of others. It’s not necessary to take from another for one’s own personal promotion to benefit.
1 Cor. 10: 23 All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.
(Excerpt from ‘Gifts from the Ashes’)
(((HUGS))) Jude Gibbs, Author of ‘Gifts from the Ashes’ available at: Xulon Press, Amazon, Barnes & Noble and DeeperShopping. Also, a Contributor on ‘The Mighty’: https://themighty.com/2017/03/the-pain-of-holidays-after-the-loss-of-loved-ones/
Book released 2/15/17.
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