Is it even attainable?
“God does love broken people. When weary, wounded men and women do find a way to open their bruised broken hearts and somehow welcome Him into their personal dark corners of their hearts, they will find a love beyond anything they have ever known. It’s not that God loves broken people more than others who believe themselves to be whole, they simply know that they are loved. They choose to believe it. Through trusting God, a new wholeness emerges from yesterday’s broken pieces.” (Gifts from the Ashes).
I am not a fan of ‘positive thinking’ as I have frequently made known. I believe it misleads folks into believing that they have the power within themselves to transform their little corner of the world by simply thinking the rights thoughts; that somehow they can magically ‘be happy’ if they can only conceptualize a ‘positive’ existence in this life. Thinking positively does not eradicate the reality of our circumstance. It will not change the fundamental truths of being raped, abused, or the horrific knowledge that my child is dead. Nothing, no one, can make me be grateful for such tragedies. Nor does God require such a thing from us.
We are encouraged to ‘Fix our thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.‘ (Phil. 4:8). But He doesn’t say such things for us to build a religion based on it. Rather, He tells us we will have ‘troubles’ in this world. He extends comfort, peace, and serenity to us in assuring us that He has overcome all of it and in our quiet place before Him, as we wait upon Him, He will renew us. (Isaiah 40:29-31).
“Failure is not falling down, failure is the refusal to get back up.” (Gifts from the Ashes).
Weeping may tarry for the night,
but joy comes with the morning.
This does not mean that if we just make it through tonight, that tomorrow morning when we awake, we will be singing and proclaiming: ‘Joy, Joy’. That ‘morning’ may not arrive until we are in the presence of our Lord and removed from this fallen world. Our Hope is not based on some misnomer that the trials and tragedies in our lives will suddenly be eradicated in this life. They are quite real, not simply a nightmare that we will awake from to discover they did not occur. Nor should we be forced and pressured by others to ‘act as if’.
I WAS RAPED!
I WAS ABUSED!
I AM CRIPPLED!
MY SON IS DEAD!
I accept those realities. God does not ever ask us to pretend otherwise nor to take some magic ‘happy pill’. To do so, would be the ultimate self-deception. Praying for ‘healing’ will not extirpate any of it.
“God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
“It is hard for you to kick against the pricks” was a Greek proverb. In the old days, a farmer would ‘prick’ an animal in order to steer it in a certain direction. If the animal kicked against the ‘prick’, it would drive it father into the animal resulting in more pain.
I cannot change any of the tragedies that have occurred in my life. I did not cause them nor bring them upon myself. God is not punishing me. God is not a ‘harsh taskmaster’. God is Good. God is Love. We live in a fallen world where bad things happen. We find Serenity in accepting that Truth. We find comfort and peace in knowing that one day we will be set free from this place and all our tears shall cease.
4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
Our peace, our Joy, our comfort and Serenity are found in our Faith. Even though we may be presently walking through a shadow of hell on this earth, it is not eternal. The sufferings of this world cannot compare with, nor are worthy of any comparison to, the Glory that awaits us. (Romans 8:18-31). Our healing comes in knowing these things, laying hold of God’s promises, and looking ahead. (Phil. 3:13).
- For every ailment under the sun
- There is a remedy, or there is none;
- If there be one, try to find it;
- If there be none, never mind it. (Mother Goose)
I want Serenity. I can only lay hold of it by accepting what is, looking forward and embracing what shall be, and in the interim trusting God and what He says.
3“A broken reed He will not break [off]
And a dimly burning wick He will not extinguish [He will not harm those who are weak and suffering];
He will faithfully bring forth justice.
In our acceptance of Truth, we find healing.
(((HUGS))) Jude Gibbs, Author of ‘Gifts from the Ashes’ available at: Xulon Press, Amazon, Barnes & Noble and DeeperShopping. Also, a Contributor on ‘The Mighty’: https://themighty.com/2017/03/the-pain-of-holidays-after-the-loss-of-loved-ones/
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