This seems to be a very touchy subject, especially in Christian circles of grieving moms, so I will attempt to tread lightly. I will begin by clarifying that I do not believe we are to ever seek out making contact with the deceased. The Scriptures are very clear on such a thing. However, I have run into a divisiveness that occurs regarding whether or not God will allow our children, at times, to somehow reach out to us by appearing in a dream. There has even occurred, occasionally, a degree of ‘judging’ and ostracization of anyone who has had some sort of ‘visitation/dream’.
I also do believe we should ‘test the spirits’. I am not approaching this topic to cause a schism. Rather, it is the sincere desire of my heart to break through the sometimes harsh ‘putting God in a box’ legalism I have run into in regards to this matter. I do believe that Jesus the Christ is ‘the same yesterday, today, and forever’. I believe He is still a God of miracles and still works His gifts in the Body. I’m not a believer in Dispensationalism in the sense that God only acted this way or that at a certain time, hence no longer works in a certain manner because it was only designed for Him to do so in a specific time period. Designed by whom and for what reason/purpose? I don’t like attempting to place God in a ‘box’, and placing limits on Him simply so I can better understand Him. His ways are truly not ours:
8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.
I’ve also observed a pattern that often presents itself. Often, those who do not believe that their child could ever reach out to them with God’s permission as in a dream, have never had such a dream. Those, on the other hand who have had such a dream, know how significant it has been and how much healing and comfort it has brought to them. Some also have a type of nightmare of their child which is quite disconcerting. When this occurs, it seems to be a way in which a mom is attempting to make peace within herself, rather than a type of ‘visitation’. Sometimes, dreams are just dreams.
It’s very hurtful to moms who have experienced such a thing to be told, rather directly or implied, that the devil disguised himself as their child. It’s spiritually wounding.
Dreams and visions are written about in the Scriptures from beginning to end. Many throughout the ages had angels appear to them. I heard one Pastor tell a mom that she was no ‘David or Jeremiah’ because she had a dream of her child. I had to ask myself: ‘Is that the Love of God?’. In Mathew 17, we read that Moses and Elijah appeared and were speaking with Jesus in front of a few of the Apostles. Well, Moses and Elijah were ‘dead’. We also read about John’s vision in Revelation where he saw numerous ‘dead’ people. We are also told that in the last days folks will have both visions and dreams (see Acts 2:17 & Joel 2:28). We are definitely suppose to ‘test the spirits’ (1 John 4:1) to see whether or not they are from God. Why? Because some are not…but some are. If they are all out of the pit, then there would be no need to ‘test’ them, now would there be?
We are also told:
2 Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
WOW! Now I do agree that our children are Saints, not angels. There are plenty of Scriptures to back that up. Isn’t it awesome though to be told by God in His Word that we may meet a stranger that is actually an Angel??
If a grieving Momma tells me of something that she believes was somehow from her child through the Grace of God, something that brought her great solace and peace, I will not tell her ‘that was the devil’. I don’t know whether it was from God or the enemy. I wasn’t there. Now if she was being tormented in some way, I know that wasn’t God. It could have been the enemy. Or, it could have been something she was working through in her sleep…something yet unresolved within her in which she is trying to find peace.
We don’t have all the answers. God does. Some things are quite clear in His Word e.g. seeking out mediums, etc. We do see patterns, however, that are consistent throughout. Some of His people are given dreams and visits, others are not. It is my prayer that such things do not divide us. That would be the enemy for he comes to ‘steal, kill and destroy’ (John 10:10). Each member in the Body has been given different ministries and different gifts. Should we be like little children fighting over what belongs to whom and who got a bigger scoop of ice cream at the dinner table? I would hope not. We all have different needs, as well. Our Heavenly Father who is the #1 Super Parent of all time, knows what we have need of and He Lovingly meets those needs.
(((HUGS))) Jude Gibbs, Author of ‘Gifts from the Ashes’ available at: Xulon Press, Amazon, Barnes & Noble and DeeperShopping and Contributor on ‘The Mighty’: https://themighty.com/2017/03/the-pain-of-holidays-after-the-loss-of-loved-ones/