In the world of psychoanalysis, there are a number of terms used to define and label a person in Grief. Just to name a few:
1- Compounded/Complicated grief
2- PTSD…Uncomplicated, Comorbid, or complex
3- Dysfunctional grief
Grief is messy. I have yet to meet anyone whose grief is not complicated. This would only be possible if a person has lived in a bubble their entire life up until the time when their child has passed on. As for PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, what does this actually mean? Well, it is stating that after (post) you experience trauma (the death of a child) you will experience Stress. Excuse my french: “No shit, Sherlock!” As for ‘Dysfunctional’ grief, is this in lieu of ‘Functional’ grief?
Counseling can be helpful…’if’ you are blessed with a grief counselor who has personally experienced grief, and has not simply read about it in some textbook. NO ONE can understand the grief encountered from losing a child except for one who has been through it; I don’t care how many letters they place after their name.
Per WebMD: ‘Sometimes the healing process is hindered by actions such as avoidance, overworking, or turning to alcohol or drugs.’ Now, if they know this, why is it that one of the 1st things they will suggest is that they prescribe for you drugs?
Per Wikipedia: ‘Psychoanalysis is a set of theories and therapeutic techniques related to the study of the unconscious mind, which together form a method of treatment for mental-health disorders.’ K…please note: ‘a set of theories’. Well, what are ‘theories’? A theory is described as ‘plausible’ (Seemingly or apparently valid), ‘speculative’ (Abstract reasoning), conjecture (Guesswork). What are ‘techniques’? Per Webster: ‘methods of accomplishing a desired aim’. I must ask: ‘whose’ desired aim?
Psychoanalysis is an analysis of the soul. Psychology is the study of the soul. Neither is an actual, in fact for certain, science. It is the ‘best guess’ based on statistical information accumulated over time. There is no blood test that can prove any of these diagnoses. In addition, per PsychCentral, ‘Sadly, because of the bizarre health insurance landscape we’ve created in the U.S., all patients in psychotherapy will likely receive a diagnosis — whether they need or qualify for one or not. It’s the primary way that therapists get paid by an insurance company. Without a diagnosis, you’d have to pay the bill out of your own pocket. (If you pay cash, you can avoid this problem.)’
You can place your trust in man, or you can place it in God and seek His Strength, Comfort, Peace, Wisdom, Understanding, etc., in His Word.
IS. 1:18a Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord
I reiterate, a grief counselor who has personally walked this journey of grief and who has Faith in God can be extremely helpful. For: Prov. 11:14 ‘Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.’ But we must choose wisely those counselors. There is too much psychology used in today’s churches. Psychology should never replace nor usurp God’s Word. If the counsel you are receiving does not lead you closer to God, it will not bring true and everlasting healing. God, alone, is the ‘Great Physician’:
IS. 53:5 But He was wounded for our transgressions,
He was bruised for our iniquities;
The chastisement for our peace was upon Him,
And by His stripes we are healed.
(((HUGS))) Jude Gibbs, Author of ‘Gifts from the Ashes’ currently available at:
Also, a Contributor on ‘The Mighty’: https://themighty.com/2017/03/the-pain-of-holidays-after-the-loss-of-loved-ones/
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