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My gratitude to the Lord and my Publisher for designing this ad for my Book: ‘Gifts from the Ashes’. (((HUGS)))

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(((HUGS)))  Jude Gibbs, Author of ‘Gifts from the Ashes’.

Also, a Contributor on ‘The Mighty’: https://themighty.com/author/jude-gibbs/

Please help spread the Word. TY! (((HUGS)))

 

 

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What If

What if someone came along and offered to heal all your wounds? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone came along and offered to remove all your scars from all the abuse you encountered in your life? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone came along and said he would remove the sting of death as he takes your hand to help you cross over? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone said they would remove all your heartache and sorrow? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone told you that they would forgive you of every wrong, every mistake you have ever made? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone offered to take from you every burden you do, and have, ever carried? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone promised to build you a mansion at no cost to you? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone promised to give you a life full of utter joy for all eternity? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone promised to reunite you with all your loved ones that he knows? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone told you that you would be loved beyond measure forever and ever? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone came along and offered to heal you of absolutely everything that ails you? What would that be worth to you?

What if someone offered to give you unending life free from all heartache and sorrow? What would that be worth to you?

What if this person offered all of the above, and far more beyond anything you could ever dream or imagine… and his only request was that you love him in return? What would that be worth to you?

(((HUGS)))  Jude Gibbs, Author of ‘Gifts from the Ashes’ available at:
http://www.directtextbook.com/isbn/9781498496728?geis=y
Articles on WordPress.com: https://wordpress.com/posts/bereavedparentsblog.wordpress.com.

Also, a Contributor on ‘The Mighty’: https://themighty.com/author/jude-gibbs/

Please help spread the Word. TY! (((HUGS)))

I am the author of this piece and using it without my written permission is against copyright law. Registration# TX 8-383-134

Not Again!!!

We all have ‘triggers’ who have walked this very traumatizing road of grief. Holidays, birthdays. anniversaries, a song, a car, a toy, etc., etc. They often take us by surprise. We never know when a trigger will present itself. What we do know is that we are never quite prepared for any of them.

I have not been able to write much of late because of these ‘triggers’ that seem to just keep on coming. One month and 3 days from now will be the nineteenth anniversary of that day on which my son was killed. That weight alone is enough. Yet, there have been those who have come forward to break their silence of sexual abuse. Yet, there has been an awareness raised on domestic violence. Now, today, there is the utterly senseless killings of numerous young people at a school in Florida.

I am simply overwhelmed.

I somehow knew that something bad was going to happen today. I awoke at approximately 4:00 AM to the sound of a loud bang. I took a brief survey of things in my home while knowing that this ‘bang’ was not the result of anything that occurred in my home. Even my cats were acting strangely. They had gathered themselves around me when I returned to bed and were motionless. All I could do is pray. My thoughts bounced around with loved ones coming to mind. I prayed for God’s protection for my surviving children.

This afternoon I turned on my computer and was getting ready to post things on line when I turned on the news to catch up on what was occurring. I was quickly overwhelmed with the news of the tragic slaughter at the school in Florida. I froze.

NOT AGAIN!!!

One month after my son was killed, the Columbine shooting took place on April 20, 1999. My son was killed on March 17, 1999. This killing today is tragic enough in itself. For me, it is also a ‘trigger’. My heart breaks for all affected by these utterly senseless murders. Their journey has just begun. I simply could not post today. Not only am I attempting to deal with today’s tragedy, but because of how this ‘triggers’ what occurred in 1999, I am overwhelmed with heartache and tears. All of these lives suddenly and brutally ended in a moment forever frozen in time.

Today’s massacre is occurring one month and three days before my son’s anniversary, whereas, Columbine occurred one month and three days after my son’s killing. Seriously, what are the odds? The pain I am feeling is indescribable. The groaning of grief undeniable. PTSD? Perhaps. But placing a label on it in no way alleviates any of it. Thirteen were killed at Columbine; the count thus far today in Florida is currently at seventeen. Those affected and traumatized beyond measure.

All of the analyzing will now begin. The ‘talking heads’ will freely give their opinions. The professionals will make their attempts to diagnose and explain ‘why?’. Many will try and make sense of something that makes no sense. Explanations and rationalizations will be sought. Folks will spin their wheels attempting to find solutions and prevent further such tragedies. The politicians will begin their spiel. Try as they may, insanity can never be made sane.

The bottom line, innocent people are dead. Their loved ones left behind have now unwillingly and unexpectedly become members of the grief community known as ‘The Rememberers’. We who have been walking this journey will pray, extend our support, offer what comfort we can, and simply say: “Me, too”.

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(((HUGS)))  Jude Gibbs, Author of ‘Gifts from the Ashes’ available at:
http://www.directtextbook.com/isbn/9781498496728?geis=y
Articles on WordPress.com: https://wordpress.com/posts/bereavedparentsblog.wordpress.com.

Also, a Contributor on ‘The Mighty’: https://themighty.com/author/jude-gibbs/

Please help spread the Word. TY! (((HUGS)))

I am the author of this piece and using it without my written permission is against copyright law. Registration# TX 8-383-134

 

Hello Grief, My Old Friend

Yes, I am rounding the bend once again approaching the time of year of my Son’s demise. Nineteen years of this, and I have grown quite weary. Though every anniversary is different, none pass without leaving their mark on my journey. Each posts a permanent milestone marker in my soul. With each passing year, a degree of anticipation touched with an element of dread slowly creeps amidst my daily thoughts. Thankfully, over time, that fearful anticipation has lessened as I have come to embrace the inevitability of it all.

As always, I will do something to honor his life and his continued existence. We, who grieve, are truly ‘The Rememberers’, even if others alongside us have forgotten. Somewhere, at some point, I have discovered that I have accepted ‘what is’, while knowing it shall not always be. I have embraced that this road of grief is truly temporary, and that a joyous time of reunion awaits. Knowing that death is not the end of the story, a finality, allows Hope of a better tomorrow to flourish. The older I get, the closer I get.

Once Valentine’s Day has passed, the usual reminders of St. Patrick’s Day will make themselves known everywhere I go. Green signs will be hung in stores and little green smiling leprechauns will pop up everywhere. They are simply unavoidable. Even such will appear in ads on TV. When the anniversary of our loved one’s demise falls on a Holiday, it gets complicated. Others will be sending out ‘Happy St. Patrick’s Day’ cards, texts, posts…wishing all well; some will be planning a day of drinking. My son was killed on this Holiday by a drunk driver, his best friend, so such reminders compound things. I will be battling an elusive fear that another’s life here will cease because of the careless and irresponsible actions of another. I will have moments in which I will suddenly discover that I am holding my breath as I remind myself to breathe. If someone wishes me a ‘Happy St. Patrick’s Day’, I will have that momentary pause before responding with: ‘A safe St. Patrick’s Day to you.’ Their wish shall be accompanied by a smile, my response will be somber.

Yep, though an element of anticipation still exists because of the unknown, I have become accustomed to the usual annual routine that accompanies my Son’s anniversary. Whether or not it will immobilize me for a time, I do not know. Yet, even such times as those, I have learned how to ride out knowing it, too, shall pass. I will grieve alone, in silence, with my God Who grieves alongside of me. So alone, but never truly alone, I shall be.

Isaiah 63:9

In all their affliction he was afflicted,
    and the angel of his presence saved them;
in his love and in his pity he redeemed them;
    he lifted them up and carried them all the days of old.

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(((HUGS)))  Jude Gibbs, Author of ‘Gifts from the Ashes’ available at:
http://www.directtextbook.com/isbn/9781498496728?geis=y
Articles on WordPress.com: https://wordpress.com/posts/bereavedparentsblog.wordpress.com. Also, a Contributor on ‘The Mighty’: https://themighty.com/author/jude-gibbs/ 

Please help spread the Word. TY! (((HUGS)))

I am the author of this piece and using it without my written permission is against copyright law. Registration# TX 8-383-134

More ‘Gifts from the Ashes’

My gratitude to God and Xulon for sending out this Press Release at no charge. Please share if so inclined. TY!!! (((HUGS)))

 

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Contact: Jude Gibbs
Website: https://www.facebook.com/Christiangrief/


Xulon Author Shares Stories of Loss, Grief, Abuse, and Finding Hope in God’s Strength
Jude Gibbs Inspires the Disheartened to Find Faith in the Shadows

MAITLAND, FL— Within the pages of Jude Gibbs’ new book, Gifts from the Ashes: Hope in Jesus for Bereaved Parents, ($29.99, paperback, 9781498496728; $9.99, e-book, 9781498496735) readers will find the author’s journey through the grief that followed the loss of her son. An intimate portrait of Gibbs’ experiences, her book delves into the pain of not only the loss of her twenty-year-old son, but also the grief that has come from pregnancy loss, fertility issues, abuse, and rape.

“It is my hope that by sharing my testimony of God’s humbling redemption, along with what He has revealed to me along the way, it will enable the reader to embrace that joy that is set before them, which Jesus Himself embraced,” states the author. “It is my desire that God be glorified in all things.”

Jude Gibbs is an ordained minister who worked for nearly a decade as a counselor for victims of abuse, rape, and incest. She acted as a board member of a Rape Crisis Center in a major city for three years. Her personal experience as a survivor of abuse and the mother of a survivor gives her a unique perspective. Her four pregnancy losses, as well as the loss of her son, have inspired her to share God’s healing power.

Xulon Press, a division of Salem Media Group, is the world’s largest Christian self-publisher, with more than 12,000 titles published to date. Retailers may order Gifts from the Ashes: Hope in Jesus for Bereaved Parents through Ingram Book Company and/or Spring Arbor Book Distributors. The book is available online through xulonpress.com/bookstore, amazon.com, and barnesandnoble.com.

My Heartfelt Gratitude

Now a 4th, as well. I spent 5 hrs. yesterday buried in tissues on my bed crying out to God. My cat, Spunky, also was found by my eldest yesterday flopping around on the floor like a fish out of water. She is fully blind and can only hear my son’s whistle and the clap of his hands. We did not know if she was having seizures, a stroke, or was choking. My eldest actually performed the Heimlich on her. She came out of it and slowly began to function. By this morning, she was eating all her food again. Spunky is very special to us. Both my son and I were in tears. She was born 4 wks. after my son, his brother, passed on and we gave her siblings to my deceased son’s friends, but kept her. She will be 19 this coming April.

Today, I shed more tears, but those of great gratitude for the love and kindness that the Body of Christ has extended unto me. I truly am overwhelmed by the love and kindness of these Pastors and folks that heard my cry. God bless them all so abundantly! (((HUGS))) I share these posts so that you know there are still good folk out there who truly know the love of Christ. Now, back to the tissues.

https://kingdompastor.wordpress.com/

https://whatislifeabout2017.wordpress.com/

https://worldeventswatch.wordpress.com/

https://mdw4christ.wordpress.com/2018/01/26/cold-hard-facts/

Many, many (((HUGS)))

I need to share one of my son’s poems from my Book that is flowing thru my veins at this moment:

And I Shed a Tear for You

by Jude’s Son (Roddy)

I’ve cried the cry that the brokenhearted
Rings across the vast wilderness;
When looking upon the bright, full moon
Shining off the calm, still lake below
And asking why!
I’ve cried the cry that stems from the
Loneliness and the hurt that a small,
Innocent, young child feels embedded
In the dark corners of his soft heart!
But now, I cry a cry that sheds a new tear!
The tears that now make their path
Down my newly, older face, do not scar
But cleanse the wounds of my past.
They do no harm, but heal.
They are the tears that are shed only by a few
Fortunate to find hope through a hole
In hopelessness!
Tears shed by those who find the love
That was lost in their loneliness.
And now, as I cry my tears of joy,
I shed a tear for you!

TY! my Son.  xoxoxo

Cold Hard Facts

COLD HARD FACTS
 
Folks, I don’t like doing this and am not very good at it, but I need to ask a favor. I just received some very disheartening news this morning and I’m feeling like a very foolish old woman, at the moment.
 
I had to call my Publisher this morning because of an annual fee that is due and for the 1st time was told the actual ‘numbers’ regarding my Book: ‘Gifts from the Ashes’. It was a step of faith for me to do this, but it was one I was willing to take in order to get my son’s poems published to honor him. Reality can sometimes be very cold and hard-hitting, though.
 
It turns out that when folks buy the Book from Amazon or Barnes & Noble, even though it is at a higher price, I only receive $1.16 per book. If the Kindle is bought at $9.99, I actually get $6.49 because there are no printing charges. If folks purchase the Book directly from Xulon, I make a whopping $14.35, but no one has bought it thru the Publisher at this point. In addition, I learned that in the almost 12 mos. since it has been published, only 60 folks have purchased it.
 
Although all the feedback I have received on it has been very heart-warming and positive, for whatever reason it’s simply not selling. I am unable to ‘promote’ it because I am pretty much housebound with my disability and it is a self-publishing situation. With the annual fee my costs now have added up to just under $3300.00. I have only received one check for $115.00. So, not doing very well at the moment and feeling pretty stupid for having placed myself in such debt especially when I am facing foreclosure on my home this year which I have had for 38 yrs. My kids aren’t real happy with me at the moment either.
 
Anyway, though feeling quite humiliated in doing this, I need to ask a favor. If in any way you feel you have benefited from this ministry, and if you have a spare $10 laying around and feel so inclined to do so. please purchase the Kindle version at Amazon. It would help me out immensely. I won’t ask this again and I’m sorry that I’m feeling the need to do so. Please don’t feel obliged. I just needed to ask. TY!! I know it’s all in God’s hands. (((HUGS)))